It’s a sad truth that many marriages have tragically ended when a couple faces the hard truth of reproductive challenges. Whether it’s because of unfulfilled expectations, anger issues, a lack of support, communication breakdown, or interference from outside the family, some marriage simply do not weather the storm of infertility.
How to keep your relationship intact
Your marriage can be different. However, Infertility and reproductive issues are not an automatic death sentence, if you know the secrets to keeping your relationship intact through this difficult time. If you are purely making love just to get pregnant, then you may feel tense than a celebration of your love for each other. This can have disastrous effects on your chances of conceiving. In fact, there is a better way to enjoy sex at the same time have a great love relationship. Here are a few quick and simple tricks to keep in mind:
Tip #1: Communicate. If you’re thinking that your spouse is not being supportive enough, what do you mean by that? Can you pinpoint exactly what he or she can be doing to improve? And once you have that clear in your mind, have you told your spouse these things? Does he or she know exactly how you feel about the situation and about your marriage in general? If you haven’t taken the time to communicate these issues clearly to your spouse, how can you be disappointed or upset if they are not handling them the way you would like?
Tip #2: Keep your expectation realistic. You can’t expect your spouse to know how you’re feeling at all times, and you can’t simply demand that they think, feel, or act the way you want them to, when you want them to. They’re going through a difficult time as well, and their response and way of handling things might be different than yours. If you want to constantly talk things through, but he or she wants to work their frustrations by getting up and going out, then understand these differences and make allowances.
Tip #3: Focus on the positive. Infertility is a very difficult issue, but there are millions of people in the world who are very frustrated with their lives for this and other reasons as well. Millions are homeless or go to bed hungry every night; millions have lost people they love in death. Yes, having a child may make your life seem complete, but are you thinking about all the things you do have? Do you concentrate on the positive aspects of your life while you wait for this situation to take care of itself? If you’re a positive, well-rounded person with a good outlook in general, chances are your mate will enjoy spending time with you regardless of your difficult situation, and your marriage is bound to be stronger overall. Of course, if you do feel that your marriage is at the breaking point, you do well to seek the professional help of a counselor, but by applying these simple tips every day, you can be sure that your relationship will be strong and solid, no matter what.
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